Somebody once said that death is the
ultimate statistic, it happens to all of us.
Some people die young, some die old, but eventually
all of us will die.
When someone you love dies, it can be very
difficult and there is no quick or easy way
to get through the pain. The hardest times
can often come when you are alone. You may
feel shock, guilt, anger, helplessness, depression,
loneliness, doubt, regret and feat. You need
to remember that it’s OK to feel these
things – they are a normal response
to the loss of someone we love and are an
important part of the grieving process.
Often the hardest thing about losing someone
is that there are things you regret –
you may remember things you did together and
wish you could re-live certain moments and
do things differently. Maybe there is something
you said that you regret, or something you
wish you’d been able to say before they
died. It’s natural to think like this.
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Right now you might be feeling that nobody
understands your situation, but God does.
He understands us better than we understand
ourselves. John 11:1-37 tells us how Jesus
felt when one of His friends died.
We need to trust God. He loves us and goes
to great lengths to keep us close to Him.
In the Bible, God promises to strengthen and
comfort those who grieve – read Psalm
46:1, Isaiah 41:13, Matt 5:4. Psalm 23 speaks
of God’s presence being with us ‘…even
though I walk through the valley of the shadow
of death… (Verse 4). Nothing, not even
death, can separate us from the love of God
(Romans 8:35-39), and He can bring peace into
our loss and grief (John 14:27).
There is also a promise that you will get
through this difficult time. You may never
stop missing the person that has died, but
one day it won’t hurt so much. Read
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
Options/Help
lines
Cruse –
an organisation offering help to those who’ve
lost loved ones. Look in the telephone directory
for their number in you area.
Part of the Big
Issues series from Spring Harvest
Written by Robin Rolls and Ems Hancock.
