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Top Ten Ways to Love Your Neighbour
Article by Aaron White
As young people, loving your neighbour as yourself can be a tall proposition. With bullying on the rise, the Black Eyed Peas seem to have it spot on when they croon "where is the love?" The playgrounds and common rooms of UK schools and colleges can seem a hopeless desolate place when it comes to God's love. This month ALOVE takes a long hard look at what it means to love each other as we love ourselves in numerous.shtmlects of life, starting with top ten tips for world subverting caring.

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Find someone new at your school (or work) and give them a welcome tour. Especially as the new school term begins, there will be many people who have no clue where they are supposed to be, or how they are supposed to get there. Give them an insider's guide to the best hang outs, the cleanest toilets, the food to avoid in the cafeteria, etc

Offer to baby-sit for free once a month. You have no idea how desperate parents are to find good, cheap babysitting so that they can get out every so often. Find a family in your church or neighbourhood that looks like it could use a regular break, and offer your services free of charge.

Next time you're buying something at a shop, pay for the person's purchase behind you. This takes a little courage. Try, as anonymously as possible, to leave as much money as necessary to cover the next person's purchase. Say you are at a music store: pay for your CD, and then give an extra amount of money to the cashier, quietly explaining that it is to go towards the next person in the queue's purchase. You will get some strange looks, but you will really bless your neighbour behind you, and probably the cashier as well.

Find the least popular person in your class or work. You know, the person no one else wants to spend any time with and take them out for coffee and a movie. In any social grouping there is a person who just doesn't fit in. For whatever reason they have been socially ostracized, and that can be very painful. A good way to show your love is to intentionally spend time with them and get to know them. You might be surprised at what you have in common, and how easy it can be to make a new friend.

Choose to bless instead of curse. Talking behind someone's back can do an incredible amount of harm. So choose to be a blessing in the way you speak. Before you say anything about anyone, think of at least one good thing to say about them, and say that first. Cut off any gossip or slander about someone as soon as it starts. Pretty soon you will become known as someone who lifts people up instead of cutting them down. The important thing here is consistency.

Visit a nursing home. Some of the most forgotten neighbours in our world are seniors in nursing homes. Families quiet often don't have the time or inclination to visit their aged relatives on a regular basis. So take on the job. Make a habit of dropping by a local home to visit the residents. You will not have a hard time finding people to talk to, and you will almost certainly learn some fascinating things.

Organise a "Random Acts of Kindness" day in your neighbourhood. Get some friends together and pick up rubbish in a local park, or go door to door with a bucket of soapy water and a sponge and offer to wash cars for free. You can also do this at your school by cleaning up the grounds.

Go door to door on a prayer walk for your block. This one takes some guts as well, but can be combined with the Random Acts of Kindness. Knock on each door and ask each person if there is anything they would like you to pray for. Some will say no thanks. Others might want you to pray right there on the doorstep. Still others will give you something to pray for later on, which you can do on your own or at a prayer meeting. The next time you see them, let them know you prayed, and ask how things turned out. Make sure that you have authorisation from your church leader, adequate identification and that you go with other people - never do this on your own.

Sponsor a child in someone else's name. This takes an ongoing commitment, both to the child and to your friend, but it is a very powerful way of showing love. Find an organization through which you can sponsor a child (The Salvation Army does this, as does World Vision, and many others.) Commit to providing a monthly amount for the support of a child, but do it on behalf of a friend, so that the information on the child's progress goes to them (You will need their name and address obviously). This makes a great birthday or Christmas gift.

Go on a hero-holiday. There are many Christian missionaries in the world who are working long, hard, and unappreciated hours in the service of God and mankind. A hero-holiday is when you choose to spend your vacation supporting a missionary's work instead of simply taking leisure time. Chances are your church will be supporting some missionaries with whom you could spend a week or two. If that is too cost prohibitive, you should be able to find a local work that you could be involved with during your hero-holiday.

These are just ten simple suggestions. We want to hear your ideas on how to practically love our neighbours as ourselves. Email them in, and we will publish the best ones for everyone's benefit!
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